By
Peg Melnik, Co-Author, “Make Love When Ever Possible When Married With Children”
http://makelovewheneverpossible.com/index.php/
Contact Peg at melniknote@aol.com or 707-479-3880
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I was
shocked.
I had been married for more than a decade and my
husband and I didn’t speak the same language – love language that is.
We were like Lucy and Ricky Ricardo on opening
night at the Tropicana with well-intentioned miscommunication creating zany
antics. We needed an interpreter and fast.
After reading “The Five Love Languages” by Gary
Chapman, it all began to add up. It was as though Cupid’s GPS had malfunctioned, preventing a flurry of arrows from reaching their mark.
When thinking about the book, I had a flash. With
a 62 percent divorce rate in America, how many of these couples might have made
it if only they had been bilingual.
The theory of this international best seller is
that everyone has a primary love language and it falls into one of the
following categories: 1) Words of Affirmation; 2) Quality Time; 3) Gifts; 4)
Acts of Service and 5) Physical Touch. (Click to this link http://amorosabella.com/marketplace/books/home.php
to see our book summary).
When I finished the book I told my husband I had alarming
news: We were not fluent in love. I told him my diagnosis: His primary love
language is Acts of Service, while mine is Quality Time. I followed up with the
cure: I needed to pamper him with acts of service and he needed to pamper me
with inventive dates.
My husband shrugged his shoulders, as if to say
the romance languages are confusing. But it’s what happened next that really
surprised me. As I bumped up my Acts of Service, he noticed my kind gestures
and it motivated him to plan more dates.
This is encouraging considering this is man is
Romeo when planning a date, particularly when there’s a secret involved. When we honeymooned in Nantucket, he
secretly arranged to have a fancy restaurant rig up a lobster dinner and
champagne in a box so we could have a picnic dinner on the beach.
I had no idea what was in the box and I absolutely
loved the not knowing of it. I
never would have believed you could package that much romance in one box.
There's hope afterall. I'm certain we can become fluent in love.
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